Finally Snow!

From the Sangre de Christo Range, we  travelled westwards to the historic mining town of Durango in southern Colorado. Just a few days later, we woke up to this view of our campground:

 

Our campground is located in the little village of Bayfield, 20 mi east of Durango. Most campgrounds close by the end of October, which adds a little challenge to our trip. There are about 8 campgrounds in Durango, and not one of them was open!





Main Avenue in Durango

Durango is a neat little town boasting a pedestrian-friendly downtown with lots of shopping, dining and entertainment options.
We enjoyed the company of one of my fraternity brothers who lives here since 15 years. He introduced us into some things that make Durango one of the "most likeable small towns of America", according to a lifestyle magazin. All three of us liked it too, so we decided to take a break from living in the trailer and rent a place in Durango for some weeks in January and February, after we are back from our Germany christmas trip.

Downtown Durango

One of the biggest tourist attractions in the area is the historic Durango-Silverton narrow gauge railway which still operates with real steam engines on a daily basis - except a three week break in November exactly at the time when we were there! One reason more to be back next year!

The 150-year old mining town of Silverton

Instead of taking the train, we drove the 50 mi from Durango to Silverton over two snow-covered mountain passes - absolutely no problem for our 4-wheel drive Dodge Ram! But cold it was - see here:

Two "Eskimos" in Colorado

In Silverton

 

Here is the problem:

I know I have not posted in a very long time and most of you suspect rightly that there is a reason: I actually do not know what to say!

The last 6 weeks have been an ongoing up and down and unfortunately I cannot even blame it on the visits of my parents and friends. Those visits helped because they gave me a chance for some social interaction.

But the family peace is constantly threatened and is going up and down.

For example on October 6^th (just days after my last relatively positive last post) I could have reported: “This is it! We are going home! Won’t work! Can’t stand each other anymore and before we kill each other, we better go home!”

Unfortunately there is no house to get “home” to anymore. On the other hand that raises the question what is home? Home is probably not a house but people; the people who love you, care for you and take part and interest in your life. And where are those people? Of course in Hilton Head and in Germany. So those places would be home, even without a house!

Like one of my favorite songs in church: The church is not a building….the church is its people…

Back to the beginning of October: the mood was shot, communications stopped, tears flowed and it was clear: we failed, we give up, and we go home. Then my parents came and the time for some productive and sensuous communication possibilities was even less…fortunately Ben slept several nights with my patents in a hotel and we got a chance to talk and fight some more. Manfred and I are both persons who do NOT easily give up! We both hated the thought of having failed. But we did not see a real solution either. Ever since we talk, plan and discuss and sometimes get very close to fighting again….and nothing seems to be right! We came up with a compromise 2 weeks ago but it seems to be one that neither Manfred nor I are really happy with. We both feel like we gave up too much for this compromise! So discussions and new (never before thought about) crazy plans arise; see pics! Which makes no sense at all! We seem to be lost, utterly lost in knowing who we are and what we actually want and intended with this trip!!!

Especially since we seldom seem to be on the same page anymore. Most of the time it seems like we want totally opposite things! I am mightily surprised by this change of the original (hoped for) plan! I do know that I wanted to explore and live new ways (and challenges) of life but I did not asked specifically for new challenges in my relationship (I already had enough of those before we started the trip J). But so far this seems to be the outcome: WHAT the heck do WE (as a married couple) want ??? Can we ever be on the same page? I know mostly what I want…I am not sure what Manfred is looking for….and I have no clue what we both together are looking for!

I am even reluctant to post the compromise we came up with because I have no idea if it will change and I will have to correct myself…

Again I am back to stating that I do not know what to say!

We will (as planned) fly home to Hilton Head on November 19^th for Thanksgiving with all our friends and then will go on home to Germany on December 4^th to spend Christmas with family!

What will we do in 2013? I guess only God knows! 

We need to keep working on it and we need all your prayers because FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION!

Looking at a farm near Pagosa Springs, CO

Checking out a log cabin near Durango, CO

Are we really considering buying a farm near Durango, CO?

Durango, CO

In New Mexico

It's been a while since my last post. From the south rim of the Grand Canyon, we travelled the I 40 east, stopped at the Petrified Forest National Park, and continued to New Mexico, where we stayed for about 10 days at a campground east of Santa Fe. From there, we continued north via Taos into the Sangre de Christo Mountains and stayed a few days in Eagle's Nest on the eastern slopes of the mountain range. We have now travelled more than 10,000 mi (16,000 km), from the 100+ (37 C) degree summer of the Southeast and the Central Plains to the freezing nights of the high desert here in New Mexico - this morning our water pipes were frozen for the first time, until the sun was high enough to get away with the ice! Maybe that's the time to compliment our truck - it worked flawlessly and always pulled our 12,000 lb trailer without complaining, and with an acceptable overall mileage of about 11.5 mpg (20 l/100km). At an average diesel price of $4.25, the fuel cost per mile is about 37 ct - not bad, I think, and definitely better than what I expected.

Painted Desert inside Petrified Forest NP

The petrified (versteinert) wood that is found so abundantly in the national park results from a rare caprice of nature: Several hundred million years ago, fallen trees were transported by a river to a shallow lake, where they were buried in the the muddy ground before they could decay, after the lake eventually dried out. The mud that formed the lakebed happened to consist of extremely fine quartz crystals - so fine that they could penetrate into the cells of the wood under the pressure of several hundreds feet of sediment that was deposited over the following millions of years.

One of the many petrified logs in the park



This was our campground in the high desert east of Santa Fe. Silke didn't like it here, it was to dry, dusty, and oftentimes windy for her.

At the Santa Fe river

 

One of many pittoresque squares (plazas) in Albuquerque

The center plaza in the historic downtown of Albuquerque



Shopping in the small Sangre de Christo town of Cimarron

Taos - 1 hour north of Santa Fe

Sangre de Christo Mountain Range



Benjamin and his friend Bobby, who visited us with his mom Maryanne for a few days, on one of our hikes in the mountains.

The gorge of the Rio Grande, near Taos



The Rio Grande valley, about 50 mi downstream  from the previous photo 

At the upper Rio Pecos